Healing Childhood Wounds

"No one escapes childhood unscathed." - Unknown

For many of us, it's difficult to pinpoint the source of childhood wounds. Were you really bullied, or was that just teasing? Was there sexual trauma, or did you just feel icky whenever that uncle came to dinner?

Maybe you can't point to one big trauma, but you think you might have Complex-PTSD - the lingering pain of growing up without the kind of support that helps kids thrive.

Maybe you've looked into your ACE (adverse childhood events) score, and realized things weren't great.

What you do know is this. You've never felt confident, secure, or at ease in your own skin. Even now, you second guess yourself.

But, midlife has a way of pushing us to heal. The old distractions and masking you were so good at don't work anymore.

It's like something inside you is forcing you to stop being okay with not being okay.

Does this ring true?

• You sensed your needs were a burden or irritation
• You were compared to other kids and either fell short or felt like your value came at someone else's expense
• You learned to be careful with other people's feelings and moods
• You felt like you were on the outside looking in - like other kids got a manual for life and you were absent that day
• You were lonely, but too afraid of rejection to reach out to others
• You became a hard worker, an attentive friend, always dependable
• Now you're depleted, yet you still long to feel loved without condition

Here's the truth

You can still give the child within you the kind of love that fosters a deep sense of security and confidence grounded in self-acceptance and self-trust.

How We Can Heal Childhood Wounds, Insecurity and Shame

Together we will listen for all the ways you had to adapt as a kid, making yourself smaller, easier, more helpful. We will listen to your inner critic, understanding that this voice is a frightened child that believes it can protect you by shutting you down or making you "perfect."

I will teach you how to develop another inner voice - that of a loving, nurturing adult. As this new part shows up consistently, you will begin to trust that you are on your own side. Your inner critic will discover that there are better ways to feel safe and secure. Over time, you will discover how to go beyond self-care and self-compassion and truly cherish yourself.

This work is deep and transformative. It takes practice and courage. But the life waiting for you on the other side is worth it - a life where you finally feel worthy, lovable, and at home in yourself.